SHE LEAVES ME BECAUSE I DON’T WANT TO GET MARRIED: HOW TO REACT?
Over time, the couple’s relationship changes. How to live better together? Today, Aleks answers the question of a reader, Arnaud, which is the following: She is leaving me because I do not want to get married, what should I do? She leaves me because I don’t want to get married: Question from Arnaud Hello to the whole Parler d’Amour team, First of all, thank you for your many articles which give me a lot of support and comfort. Simple, concise, precise… What more should I add? I am devastated because we love each other, it’s undeniable, we’ve been living together for three years and everything is fine. Small arguments from time to time but nothing too bad; on the household or who has not cleared the dishwasher. The rest of the time, we laugh, we talk about everything and nothing, we go to the theater, to the restaurant, to friends … In short, what happiness! Finally for me. Because this happiness was apparently not enough for him. It has been several times that she broached the subject of marriage and for me it is clear: I do not want to get married. Not because I don’t love her, but precisely because I love her and for me love is something that you work on on a daily basis. The marriage is nothing else for me a paper at City Hall. And when you see how easy it is to divorce today, I find that it no longer makes any sense! She, she wants to get married for the princess side. She tells me that she wants to have the happiest day of her life, have a beautiful white dress and have all of our friends and families together. But for me, it’s just ostentatious, it has no value in my eyes and I do not understand his desire I admit. It was also the only times when I found her very superficial as if she was 12 years old and she lived in a Disney. I ended up telling her “ok we’re getting married but I’m not taking care of anything, it’s only for you”. And, if I thought I was doing well by giving in, this sentence destroyed everything. She told me that I was not the one to make her dreams come true and that it was better to stop there. She took her things and left to live with her parents for two weeks now with hardly any news! It stuck me up I still can’t believe it and I really don’t know how to act! I really need your lanterns! Thank you, Arnaud She leaves me because I don’t want to get married: Aleks’ response Hello Arnaud, I feel in you a lot of suffering and I will try to help you in your current torments. What I read in your story is a beautiful meeting where two people live beautiful moments, accomplices, fusions. Some disagreements like any couple. But right now you are separated. I’ll explain why some people really want to get married: The wedding Despite what everyone thinks, in today’s society, marriage remains an exceptional sacrament which is granted only once in a lifetime. It allows two to be fundamentally in love, to unite body and soul for life. He commits each of them to be the backbone of the other for the rest of his life. It is a promise that we cannot make on a daily basis. Marriage allows you to set a date. Date on which a union is made, and which will become a wedding anniversary date , on which, each year, you will be able to remember all that you offer to the other. Love is worked on daily, yes, but marriage consists in fighting for each other, in creating an alliance, a sign of love and fidelity. It allows you to announce to your families, how serious your relationship is, and at the level of the law, without marriage, you appear in boxes of “single”. On top of that, your sweetheart would bear your name. For a young girl, bearing the name of her lover brings a family dimension. She is part of your family, and will be able to offer your children your name. What proof of love on his part! (Although she can keep hers too!). Do you feel the indestructible bond taking hold? You seal an eternal bond in marble. For those who see marriage as a life project for two, it allows you to give meaning to your relationship. Be ready to make a serious commitment. Out of billions of people on Earth, the other says, “It’s you I want and no one else.” What moment in life can be more intense than this for 2 lovers? Little girls dream of this day since their childhood and of their imagination, they bring to the present moment, this reality: the official union. Of course, they see each other in the same dress as Cinderella, with a princess wedding, but what is behind it all?